Cohort 01 · 5 Seats
It's time to
start doing
4 live calls · 5 seats · $200 each
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You're in a social setting, and one of the people there is particularly magnetic. You find yourself ignoring everyone else and fixating on them. You listen intently to what they say. You judge your own choices and opinions against theirs.
(and theirs are obviously better)
You want their attention, and their approval. Actually, you don't just want it. You need it. It feels important. Like, "you'd happily re-orient your entire life around it" important.
Why this happens
There's a reason why you feel this way. Your mind puts them on a pedestal because it's trying to show you your potential. You couldn't see these things in someone else unless you had a seed of it latent within you.
In certain psychology circles, they'd say that this person carries your golden shadow: the positive traits you possess but that you haven't yet owned.
You've already unconsciously promised yourself that you would own those things. Your mind knows they're in you, and the intensity of the attraction correlates with the number of times you've broken that promise.
It's time to stop breaking that promise. To do so consistently, you need a system.
The system
I call this system the Golden Vow. I'm going to teach it to you over the course of four weeks.
Arc 1 — Capture
Projections
In this week, we'll learn about projections. Your relationships are your best resource for figuring out what it is you need to do.
Dreams & Meditation
Whether you realize it or not, your unconscious mind has a lot to teach you. One of the ways it does this is through your dreams. Another way is through spontaneous thought during meditation. I'll teach you a tried-and-true method for interpreting your dreams and understanding what your unconscious mind has to say about what you ought to be doing with your life.
Arc 2 — Do
Process
In this week, we'll learn what to do with all the information we've captured in weeks 1 and 2. I'll teach you the best techniques I know for turning that raw information into things you can actually do.
Execute
In this week, we'll learn how to organize and track what you're doing so that you can see the progress you've made on your path.
Bonus call
A fifth call after the four weeks — a check-in on how your system is holding up in the wild.
Logistics
What you're signing up for
- Starts
- August 4
- Schedule
- One call per week, Tuesdays at 5pm MT
- Format
- 30–60 min lecture, then optional live Q&A
- Recordings
- Every call recorded, yours to keep forever
- Homework
- 2–4 hours per week
- Price
- $200 per seat
- Seats
- 5, this cohort only
The guarantee
Come to all four live calls, submit all your homework. If you do all that and don't feel it was worth it, get on a call with me, tell me what didn't work, and I'll give you a full refund.
About me
For most of my life, I was disconnected from my own voice. I didn't know who I was or what I wanted.
Perhaps it was caused by my religious environment. Perhaps it was school. Perhaps it was pressures from friends and family. In reality, it was a bit of everything. Everything that told me that the most important voices were not my own.
I formed an identity to explain why I never listened to myself: I'm the guy who never gets what he wants. My destiny was to be ignored. To receive breadcrumbs. To admire from afar.
My marriage challenged that identity. My wife treated me like the most important person in the world, and I didn't know how to receive it. All I wanted was to run away.
The first six years of marriage were the most unhappy years of my life. The marriage container intensified the unheard voices inside of me.
But instead of listening to them, I continued looking outward. I blamed my wife for my unhappiness. I fixated on women I couldn't have. I constantly felt less than those around me. And I didn't do anything about it. Instead, I did what I always did: hope that someone would come along and save me.
I decided I needed therapy. It didn't take long before I began listening to my own desires.
I left behind my religion. I built muscle. I went skydiving.
One of my desires was to go explore Europe. That trip became the catalyst for the most transformative experience of my life.
The trip was magical and healing in many ways. But even there, doing something I wanted, I felt like I needed permission to enjoy it. I wanted someone to tell me that it was okay for me to be there.
After a day of being particularly hard on myself in the Swiss Alps, in the car ride home, my chest started to feel weird. I felt my heart beat in my throat. I felt the muscles in my chest tighten and dread overwhelmed me.
I believed I was having a heart attack.
I went to the ER in Switzerland and everything seemed fine (except for elevated troponin in my bloodstream... a story for another time).
But the dread stayed with me, day in and day out, for the rest of the trip and for weeks after we got home.
Two more ER trips and several doctor visits later, they found I had developed a hernia in my diaphragm.
The very muscle that allows me to project my voice.
My body was done being ignored. It was done hiding. It was done pretending like everyone else mattered except for me.
That was three years ago.
Since then, I've listened even more intently to the unheard voices. I've found people who could hold my story and help me process it. And I've built a system for keeping promises to myself; for hearing and prioritizing my voice.
This system has changed my life. It's the reason I feel content in my marriage. It's the reason I feel equal to those around me.
I want to teach that system to you.