Cohort 01 · 5 Seats
It's time to
start doing.
4 live calls · 5 seats · $200 each
Claim your seat →You feel behind
And I don't simply mean on your to-dos (though that's probably the case, too). No, what I mean is that you feel less-than. As if everyone else got a manual for life that you didn't. Why does everyone else seem so fulfilled and joyful and content with their lives? Why does that feel so out of reach? So you look for the thing that will finally make you whole — usually a person. Someone magnetic and a little out of reach. You fixate. You measure yourself against them. Their attention feels like it completes you.
I'm here to tell you that nobody can complete you. Not a romantic partner, not a friend — nobody but yourself. You feel behind because you've got a pile of promises you made to yourself, but that you haven't looked at consciously.
What it costs to stop listening
I spent most of my life disconnected from my own desires. I disowned them so completely I made it my identity: I'm the guy who never gets what he wants. I admired from afar. I waited for permission. I hoped someone would come along and save me — and I put that job on the people closest to me. It was the biggest pain point in my marriage.
I looked fine on paper, but I hated myself. And I didn't understand why.
Your fixations are a map
The person who captures your attention is a mirror of your inner world. The qualities you admire in them — you only see them because they are already latent in you. Their attention feels out of reach because you give no attention to those qualities in yourself.
Once you see that, magnetic people stop being torture and start being a map. Your attractions, your envy, your rumination — all of it points back to promises you haven't looked at.
The game is to turn the projection back into a promise, and the promise into something you make a conscious decision about.
The system is how you prove you're listening
You need a way to catch the promises and decide on them consciously.
Whether you follow through on them or not, it (usually) doesn't matter. The important thing is that you made the decision conscious. Instead of promising yourself something and then not doing it because you keep forgetting, the things you say no to with a system are conscious. To your mind and heart, that's all that matters.
But there are some things your soul won't let you get away with saying no to. And for those things, a system helps you plan them out, track your steps, and follow through. In the time I've used this system, I've followed-through on promises I had been putting off for years. The fixations on out-of-reach people quieted down and I stopped needing others to complete me. I grew up. And now I'm someone that I can respect.
The Four Weeks
Empty Your Mind
Everything you're carrying — the errands, the dreams, the half-formed intentions, the promises you've been avoiding — comes out of your head and into one trusted place. This is your inbox, and it's the foundation everything else is built on.
Process What's There
Your inbox will rot if we let it sit for too long. This week you learn to process it — to pick up any item and know exactly where it goes. Is it a note to file away? Something to (consciously) put off for later? A project? Something you can quickly do now? By the end of this week, your chaotic pile of thoughts from week one becomes a clear, conscious picture. Your soul will feel relieved by all the attention it's getting.
Find the Meaningful Inputs
Your unconscious is constantly pointing at what you need to do — through the people you fixate on, through your dreams, through what surfaces in meditation. This week I'll teach you to read those signals and turn them into promises you can act on. Your projections stop being torture and start being a map.
Keep It Alive
A system only works if it survives past week four. This week is about the weekly renewal — the ritual that keeps your system current, trusted, and engaging. You'll leave knowing how to stay someone who listens to themselves, long after the cohort ends.
Bonus call
A fifth call after the four weeks — a check-in on how your system is holding up in the wild.
Logistics
What you're signing up for
- Starts
- August 4
- Schedule
- One call per week, Tuesdays at 5pm MT
- Format
- 30–60 min lecture, then optional live Q&A
- Recordings
- Every call recorded, yours to keep forever
- Support
- Ongoing support throughout the week via Discord
- Homework
- 2–4 hours per week
- Price
- $200 per seat
- Seats
- 5, this cohort only
The guarantee
Come to all four live calls, submit all your homework. If you do all that and don't feel it was worth it, get on a call with me, tell me what didn't work, and I'll give you a full refund.
About me
For most of my life, I was disconnected from my own voice. I didn't know who I was or what I wanted.
Perhaps it was caused by my religious environment. Perhaps it was school. Perhaps it was pressures from friends and family. In reality, it was a bit of everything. Everything that told me that the most important voices were not my own.
My marriage challenged that identity. My wife treated me like the most important person in the world, and I didn't know how to receive it. All I wanted was to run away.
The first six years of marriage were the most unhappy years of my life. The marriage container intensified the unheard voices inside of me. But instead of listening to them, I did what I always did: hope that someone would come along and save me.
I decided I needed therapy. It didn't take long before I began listening to my own desires. I left behind my religion. I built muscle. I went skydiving. I went on a trip to Europe that became the catalyst for the most transformative experience of my life.
In the years since, I've found people who could hold my story and help me process it. And I've built a system for keeping promises to myself; for hearing and prioritizing my voice.
This system has changed my life. It's the reason I feel content in my marriage. It's the reason I feel equal to those around me.
I want to teach that system to you.